He'd tell me if he's poz.
Anecodotally, we often trust our boyfriends, our buddies, our friends, our hook-ups to know their HIV status and to tell us. Sometimes, we assume they'd say so we don't ask those tough questions before having sex...
If we're HIV-negative, we often tell ourselves:
"I trust him... he'd totally tell me if he's positive."
If we're HIV-positive, we often tell ourselves:
"He's not asking my status, so he must also be HIV-positive."
Communication breakdowns happen all the time, and it makes negotiating sexual safety tricky!
Even if we do ask our sex partner their status before hooking up, we have a new problem: What if they are HIV-positive and don't know it yet?
It can take 3 - 6 months for an HIV test to detect HIV in someone's body. More often than not, people aren't lying about their HIV status to a sex partner... it's just that people don't know yet.
New HIV cases in young gay and bi men DOUBLED in MN in 2009. We think that 3 - 6 months "window period" of time has a lot to do with it.
He may think he's negative. You may think you're negative. But if someone has barebacked in the last 3 - 6 months... you can't know for sure.
Get tested. Get tested together! Wait for your window period to be up before considering barebacking.
According to the Minnesota Department of Health, new HIV cases rose 13% in 2009. New HIV cases nearly DOUBLED in young gay/bi men ages 15 - 24.
You may be fabulous, but you're not immune to HIV. Get tested. If you're positive, seek care.
- Get tested for HIV.
- Get connected to HIV care.
- Check out the CAPS Program of the Red Door for more information.
CAPS services are free and confidential.
"Fabulous" Poster (pdf) | Profile of HIV in MN